Dec 8, 2020Member-onlySlut-shaming: A Lazy Man’s DefenseA tale of contrasts — The topic of my underwear does not deserve a separate chapter but it does. Black lace or red? I think I prefer the red, against my skin. The red feels nicer, luxurious. Your fingers dance over the lace and tease me through the fabric. Don’t go inside just yet. Not…Domestic Violence5 min readDomestic Violence5 min read
Nov 21, 2020Member-onlyYou’re Not Meant to Take Down the Mother of Your ChildrenYou’re Not Meant to Take Down the Mother of Your Children A plea for change A couple of years ago I envisaged a time when there would be peace. I fantasized about stepping off the treacherous rollercoaster that my life had become. …Women5 min readWomen5 min read
Jul 26, 2020Member-onlyWhat Do You Say When You Are Not Fine?Today I am sad… Why are we praised for being calm, robotic like when in fact we are crumbling on the inside, when life has dealt us unjust blows and the pain has become unbearable to face? Why has it become natural to say we are fine when in fact…Personal Growth5 min readPersonal Growth5 min read
Nov 23, 2019Member-onlyRight or Wrong I Have a Fuck BuddyRight or Wrong I Have a Fuck Buddy My ex husband first named my new found friend, out of spite of course. Initially insulted but with some time, l thought it funny so I decided to run with it. My fuck buddy has a name, I’ll call him Fred because…Sex4 min readSex4 min read
Sep 16, 2019Member-onlyDo Who Makes You HappyDo Who Makes You Happy My body new my marriage was over long before my mind ever did. In the mornings whilst making the bed I would look at the position of our pillows. His squarely on his side or in the middle towards mine. …Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Jun 27, 2019Member-onlyParental Alienation: What Happens When the Family Home Is Toxic?Photo by Shari Sirotnak on Unsplash “I love you,” I said to my baby now 15 and standing 6 feet tall. I said it more than once, I said it as I held her in my arms standing on my tip toes. …Family5 min readFamily5 min read
Jun 6, 2019Member-onlyI Do Love My Body and this Is WhyI Do Love My Body and this Is Why Whilst writing a response to Lee Ball’s article, ‘Do You Love Your Body?’ my own story arose — my attitude to my body evolving as our bodies inevitably do. In my childhood my body served me well. I was faster than…Body Image5 min readBody Image5 min read
Apr 5, 2019Member-onlyWill That be With Baggage or Without?I have baggage but I am working on it. No I’m not at the airport waiting to fly — anywhere really — ‘far far away.’ Back to reality, I am 46 so yeah I come with baggage. …Love5 min readLove5 min read
Mar 10, 2019Member-onlyHome Is Where the Heart IsI like to watch my children sleep: at peace having survived the day and ready for the possibilities of tomorrow. “Goodnight Lily,” I whispered as I kissed my daughter gently on the cheek. …Domestic Violence2 min readDomestic Violence2 min read
Mar 7, 2019Member-onlyDecluttering and Why My Husband was the First to Go!A crisp clean house has always been a fantasy of mine but the upkeep with teenage girls is difficult to achieve. So I dream of white walls, luscious indoor plants, shiny floorboards and a simple life of minimalism. I also dream of him but he is not my husband. He…Love7 min readLove7 min read
